How to Deal with Negative People

How to Deal with Negative People

There is no getting around the fact that we are, each of us, in charge of choosing our happiness. In fact, I dedicated the first section of my book, An Amateur’s Guide to the Pursuit of Happiness, to personal responsibility.

There’s also no getting around the fact that we live and work with other people – and sometimes those people aren’t so happy.

Those unhappy people – and our inability to avoid them all together – are the inspiration for today’s Q&A video.

Carly asks:

What’s your philosophy on how to handle it when you have to be around people that seem devoted to misery? It makes me sad, so it’d be nice to have a coping strategy.

My philosophy on how to deal with negative people can be boiled down to three parts.

How to Deal with Negative People

  1. Limit your interaction – yep, it still comes down to taking ownership for how much time you spend around crabby people.
  2. Don’t engage – if you don’t validate negative people they will look for a new outlet.
  3. Let miserable people be miserable – it’s not your place to foist happiness onto someone else.

Ultimately, the key to dealing with negative people is to accept and respect other people’s right to be where they are.

Remember: you don’t have the market cornered on what it means to be happy and positive. (Click to tweet.)

What about you? How have you dealt with negative people in your life? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments.

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  1. Joe Dalio says:

    Thank you for the excellent advice! I deal with negative people on a daily basis. I have learned that there’s very little I can do to change them. I simply do my best to be a positive example and hope I can be a shining light :)
    Joe Dalio’s most recent post: How Was 2014?

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