This week’s video is about giving up on the idea that you SHOULD be happy.
I met a man recently who told me that he had the perfect job: good pay, lots of freedom, great boss – he said he knew that any sensible person would look at his life and say he was lucky and he should be happy. But, he confessed to me, he has an overwhelming sense that something is missing, that he’s not really as happy as he could be.
When I heard that, I immediately flashed back to my own past when I also tried to tell myself I SHOULD be happy.
On the outside, everything looked good: loving husband, healthy kids, family support, close friends, and relative financial security. But despite all that, I didn’t FEEL happy or content at a soul level.
And, instead of trying to figure out what WOULD make me happy, I wasted a lot of time and energy beating myself up because I thought I SHOULD be happy.
Don’t do that!
If you’re not happy despite having a good life, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. You aren’t broken because your “good life” isn’t making you happy.
You just haven’t found YOUR life yet – and you can’t as long as you keep beating yourself up for not being grateful or happy enough.
Instead of trying to guilt yourself into happy submission, make some changes. Figure out what DOES make you happy and do more of that.