Change makes us happy. Eventually.
But first, it usually sucks.
This is what Gretchen Rubin calls a Happiness Paradox: happiness doesn’t always make me feel happy – especially when it involves change.
How do we get through that hard part? How do we find the grit necessary to keep going so that we end up in the happy place when the getting there is so dang uncomfortable?
Accept the discomfort.
Pretending that change is all rainbows and butterflies doesn’t make it any less fun. At best, it lets us look like we’re fine while we’re quietly struggling. At worst, faking it creates a block we can’t identify between us and where we were hoping to end up.
It’s totally normal to struggle through change, even change you wanted. Know that. Accept that. Go ahead and give yourself permission to hate it.
Hang tight to gratitude.
When the daily grind is particularly grinding – as it tends to be when we’re in periods of transition – it helps to cling to counting blessings. Focus on the little things, the small moments that made you smile amidst the chaos. Practice gratitude every day.
Gratitude doesn’t make the growing pains disappear, but it helps make them bearable. It helps you maintain perspective, so that the fear and discomfort doesn’t drown you before you make it to the other side.
Do what makes you happy.
There’s nothing that says you’re entire life has to be hard, even when you are going through a transition. Know that your happiness reserves are being depleted quickly, and take the time to refill them with whatever you know makes you happy.
Eat your favorite foods. Go outside. Take a long bath. Paint. Listen to good music. Allow yourself to indulge in your personal preferences, your own brand of happiness boosters, whenever you can right now. You deserve it, and you’ll need it.
What’s your best survival tip for change that sucks?