Pause

Thursday, January 31st, 2013
how to be present

I have a lot of important deadlines coming up. The big fundraiser for the kids' school, which I've been helping to plan, is less than two weeks away. The magical date by which I want to have my book done is barreling towards me. The end of one month, the beginning of another. Blah blah blah… we all have things that need to be done sooner rather than later, so I know you know where I'm coming from.

I've been wishing for a universal pause button. Something that would hold the world and time at bay for a little bit, just long enough for me to get ahead, and maybe even rest, but not make me miss one of my 100 Days of Action.

Again, I suspect you understand my longing.

I was doing yoga this morning, laying on my back, eyes closed, and the voice from the computer said something about letting the world go for a minute. I don't remember the exact words, but I remember thinking, “the world can wait.”

More than that. The world goes on spinning. As I lay on my living room floor, breathing in and out as deeply and slowly as I can, the world keeps moving. Time ticks by, and it doesn't move more or less quickly because I'm not keeping track of it.

I needed to remember that.

I can pause whenever I want and nothing will fall apart. No one's life will be ruined, not even mine, by my taking a breath. I can step aside and let the current move, wash over me and by me, and nothing has been lost by my not keeping up.

It goes on anyway, you know. We aren't ever really keeping up. It's an illusion of weight we get when all the things have to be done all the time, but the truth is that none of us are Atlas.

Sometimes I just have to pause long enough to remember that.

This post isn't sponsored, but I was given a year of free online yoga from MyYogaOnline.com (hence the voice from my computer). If you've ever wanted to try yoga yourself, you can get two weeks free through this link.

 

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  1. Nanna says:

    Thanks for the reminder! It seems so arrogant to think that the world will fall apart without our constant attention and intervention!
    Nanna’s most recent post: Proof of God’s Love

  2. daniel says:

    Truly, the world CAN wait. There’s a great book Be Here Now that I am reminded of. I recommend it, and think you might enjoy it – though I know you’ve got enough going on. http://www.amazon.com/Remember-Here-Now-Ram-Dass/dp/0517543052/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1359640518&sr=1-1&keywords=be+here+now
    daniel’s most recent post: What The Hell?

  3. Kent says:

    Your living room is awesome :)

  4. Megan says:

    Appropos of nothing, I really, really want to put an area rug in your living room. In fact, I know the perfect one. It resides in my living room. Maybe I’ll gift it to you when we move. :D
    Megan’s most recent post: Round & Round

  5. Lisa says:

    I have a hard time pausing lately. Either I can’t quiet my mind, or I go straight from a pause to sleep. Maybe when I’m finally able to get back to the gym & yoga it will be better.
    Lisa’s most recent post: On the Upside of a Downward Spiral

  6. MelD says:

    Nice to meet you – I came over from Miss Minimalist and am enjoying reading some backlog.
    I wish you much faith in your ability as a mom as your kids get to be teens, as well as faith in them. You’ll be fine.
    Though I did wonder why you would threaten a young kid about not getting into college – maybe he’s not the type, maybe he just doesn’t want to, maybe he has a better plan, maybe he will be the most wonderful craftsman in something you don’t learn at college… you don’t know that and he probably won’t for a few years, yet, either. Our plan is not always the best plan. Yes, we need education for our kids, but it doesn’t always need to be formal. They need to learn to become good adults, not overprotected and incapable of dealing with practical realities, it’s no help for them to be stuffed full of science and maths if they can’t balance a budget and know how to treat other people. Just my observation after 3 teens! Nobody said it would be easy LOL.

    • Miss Britt says:

      Nice to meet you!

      I wouldn’t say threatened is accurate – but he’s always talked about wanting to go to MIT, and I want him to be happy. That being said, like I wrote about, I’m trying to learn to step back more and leave him in charge of his future more.

  7. Sheena Tatum says:

    This post is right on time. I’m feeling overwhelmed. So much needs to be done online and I just want to get ahead. While I know that the world will not end if I slack a bit, I feel so guilty not being able to promptly deliver. I have a huge fear of disappointing people/tarnishing my rep. *le sigh*
    Sheena Tatum’s most recent post: Help Ugandan Moms Deliver & Care For Their Babies

  8. It’s a challenge to remember to slow down
    Corey Feldman’s most recent post: In which I was almost brought to tears driving to work

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