When I chose the name for this site a couple years ago, I wondered if it was a good idea to focus on the pursuit of happiness. The indication is that we are always chasing and never achieving, always going and never arriving. I worried that the name would convey a constant restlessness and that no one would ever listen to me if I couldn’t proclaim that I had found and maintained happiness once and for all.
But then I realized that’s exactly what I wanted to convey.
Happiness is not a destination at which to arrive, but a journey to take.
It is about savoring the current moment, yes, but also about knowing that we must always keep choosing.
Life will always present us with new opportunities to be defeated. People will die, jobs will be lost, and tragedies will hit close to home. And we will have to come back to our core values and figure out how to be happy again. In these days we will find ourselves hunting happiness doggedly, with flashlights and blood hounds and urgency.
Other times we will not have to hunt. We will follow happiness along like a mother trailing after a toddler at the park. We are watchful, certainly, but we know the pace of those legs and exactly where the temptations lie. We reach out when we need to change course, but mostly we just amble along, half paying attention while we enjoy the warm day and conversation with a friend.
Real happiness is neither a constant day at the park nor a lifetime of hunting in the dark. Real life moves between the two, but the pursuit of happiness is always an option.
I hope I never become so foolish as to think I have conquered happiness. I have learned a lot about being happy and I love sharing those lessons and stories with others, but I am now and always will be just another seeker on the road.
Will we always be pursuing happiness?
By God, I hope so.
What do you think?