We’re Moving to…


Yep, after driving around the country and visiting dozens of cities, we have decided that the one we’re going to call home is in western Pennsylvania.

Even though the only reason we visited Pittsburgh in the first place was because our friend Becky insisted on it, we fell in love with the place instantly. We realized just how much after we left, when we found ourselves comparing everywhere else to the old Steel City. By the end of our trip, we were certain Pittsburgh was where we would make our next home.

And then we went back to Florida and realized how hard it was going to be to leave our old home behind. In fact, we were suddenly unsure of anything, and we agreed to do nothing for a few weeks. By doing nothing, I was able to see that it was mainly fear that had me facing south.

But I am committed to living with courage.

So we’re taking another leap of faith.

We’re looking at moving quotes and moving to a city that puts a confused look on everyone’s face when we tell them about our desire to live there.

We’re moving to a place where we have no family and just a handful of friends.

We’re moving to a place that we have visited exactly once, in a part of the country about which we know very little.

And we are totally excited about it.

Yes, we are a little nervous about the harsh winters, but we’re looking forward to the chance to make our city-living dreams come true. No, Pittsburgh is not a major metropolis like New York City or San Francisco, but it’s also considerably less expensive than those places while still offering much of what I like about cities. There is tons to do and we will, hopefully, be able to live right in the heart of it all.

We’ll be making our move in August after a vacation to Costa Rica, and I can’t wait.

The next chapter begins…

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  1. Shannon says:

    I think that is the coolest thing. I have only moved to a new city once, really and that was the best decision I had ever made. The rest of the time I moved because of a family member and knew what I was doing. The idea of something totally new and this time with my husband, who would love it as much as I do is so enticing!

    Very best of luck! Pittsburgh is lucky to have you!

  2. Dawn says:

    Terrific! I’m thrilled that you made a choice. And, really, any place where you set up house will soon feel like home because you have each other. And Becky.

  3. Alan Labovitz says:

    Wow! We have cousins in Pittsburgh. It used to be pretty ugly until they got rid of the steel mills and now it’s quite attractive. You’re right about it being great. I’m sure Becky is lots of fun and a great fun also. The winters are pretty harsh but it’s beautiful terrain surrounded by mountains. I imagine you’ll probrably get a chance to visit Frank Lloyd Wright’s Falling Water which isn’t very far. Good luck to you folks and I’ll be keeping in touch.

  4. Anna says:

    How exciting! I am thrilled for you.
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  5. Christina says:

    Congratulation!!!!!!!!! Magnificent choice. Kind of working on the same project, but I am not yet where you are already. So on one of my next trips we need to go for coffee and face-to-face chat!!!
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  6. Jennifer says:

    I hope that you love Pittsburgh!
    Jennifer’s most recent post: Ruslan and Wyatt 3.0

  7. meg says:

    The Burgh has real character, great sports teams, fabulous ethnic food, and its natives are damn proud of it. There are lots of displaced “yinzers” in dc where I live; many of them have one goal: to go back one day. I think you will like it there!
    meg’s most recent post: What happens at Vegas Night…

  8. Kristen says:

    YAY!!!! That is close to me!!! What a wonderful city – seriously… awesome!
    Kristen’s most recent post: Before We Meet In Real Life: Full Disclosure

  9. Dick Carlson says:

    Wasn’t there a Bruce Willis movie with him as a disgraced cop assigned to police the rivers or something? Maybe he’s still there.
    Dick Carlson’s most recent post: Upgrading Your Customers

  10. OHmommy says:

    YAY!!!!!!!!!! Congrats to you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!

  11. kdiddy says:

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  12. Angel Smith says:

    Congratulations on having a plan! And, you know, Becky is one of my favorite people too so I can visit both of you!
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  13. Laurie says:

    I’ve only been a few times, but each experience has been really great. Good choice. Wishing you much happiness there.
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  14. Congrats on this very important decision. Reading your blog, I remember how my husband and I stumbled upon Richmond as newlyweds. We moved to the area after only one short visit and we have been enchanted ever since. You are off to a new adventure!

  15. eggy says:

    Congratulations on deciding about the next chapter. Here’s a link that may answer some questions for you. I’ve thought about Cleveland, for similar reasons, but haven’t made it there yet, to check it out.


  16. amanda bone says:

    Yay! Plus you are close to me.

  17. Dawn says:

    “I am committed to living with courage.” Put that on a tshirt. for me. please.
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  18. Good luck in your new home! Congratulations on making a decision to move forward. I hope it helps on your journey to happiness and through life.
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  19. Nanna says:

    “But I am committed to living with courage.”

    This makes me so happy.

    And YAYYYYY for Pittsburgh! When I hear you guys describe it, it sounds wonderful!!! As far as winters, GREAT chance to have and wear awesome boots and scarves and mittens and fun stuff – there is nothing as beautiful as a CITY in winter.

    And – duh – BECKY!!!!!!
    Nanna’s most recent post: Suicide – It Touches Us All

  20. Twinmamateb says:

    I am thrilled! with this decision. I knew my charm and that warm brie dip would work its magic on you ;-) Our winters really aren’t that bad, we wished for more snow this year, we never got to go sledding.

    I made the decision to move here 10 yrs ago and have NEVER regretted it. If you need *anything* please let me know. Welcome to the Burgh n’at !!

  21. Jill says:

    Yeah for you! Pittsburgh is great. AND you’re only three hours from Lake Erie Shores & Islands so maybe now you can visit again when the weather isn’t yucky! Best wishes on your move!

  22. Hockeymandad says:

    Awww…I am genuinely sad you guys won’t be closer, but very happy you are excited to go where you are going. I have never been there, but it must be nice if you choose to live there, I know you guys will tear it up! Also, we may actually come and visit you there if that’s ok. Anna’s #2 dream destination is Pittsburgh to go see her Penguins play in their home rink. It was her #1 spot until she learned about the Library of Congress. ;)

  23. red pen mama says:

    Our city is a very subtle seductress. :)

    Congratulations on making a decision. Pittsburgh is gaining a talented and exciting new family. I’m glad we had Becky to advocate for us.

    Enjoy your summer, and I do hope I get to meet you once you’ve settled in. I don’t comment much, but I enjoy reading about your adventures!
    red pen mama’s most recent post: Futility

  24. daniel says:

    Totally not surprised!! The way you kept talking about the city.

    GOOD LUCK!!!!
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  25. welcome!
    even though i knew your decision, i had chills reading this. and my eyes are kinda damp. i love this town so much and it thrills me when others discover all it has to offer.
    plus, i can hug you, jared, and the kids whenever i want. and maybe your momma will visit. squeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
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  26. Robin says:

    So excited for you guys! It’s officially official!!

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  28. Amanda says:

    This is so exciting! Three cheers for new adventures!

  29. had to come back and SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE again.

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  30. Megan says:

    That damn cold weather is the only thing stopping Mitch and I from considering Pittsburgh when we make our move next year. I’d be OK with it, but he really doesn’t want to.

    I’ll try to work on him.

    Happy dance for you!
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  31. Karianna says:

    So exciting! Your adventure has been so inspiring, and it is fabulous that you found something completely unexpected – what an amazing way to craft your life!
    Karianna’s most recent post: I am Not a Failure

  32. Heather says:

    I grew up in the ‘Burgh. You’re going to love it.

  33. Congratulations! I can’t wait for you all to get settled so we can visit!
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  34. martymankins says:

    While I had heard from you and Becky about this before your Florida trip, this is exciting news. The move to a new city will be awesome. And in August, where you will get the last part of summer before the kids start school.

    Very happy for your family.
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  35. Now I have 2 reasons to find a way to visit The ‘Burgh! I’m happy to hear you guys have a place that feels like it will be home for you! Congrats!
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  36. fiwa says:

    I’m so pleased for you, that you guys found a place you love, and you gave yourself the time to make sure it was what you wanted to do. Best of luck – I can’t wait to hear about your next adventures. :)

  37. IlinaP says:

    How great for you! I think you will love it there. And Costa Rica?! Hurray!
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  38. Carly says:

    Soooooooooooo excited, as you know! This city and the entire region really does have so much to offer. And hopefully you find yourself in the midst of downtown so I can kind of vicariously live the city life too. ;b
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  39. Melody says:

    Congrats on finding a new home and good luck on your next exciting chapter!!
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  40. We lived there nearly seven years with my hub commuting to SanFran for two since we loved the city and the people! Where are you thinking of settling? And I still know a bunch of people there would love to put you in touch!
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  41. crystal d says:

    You will love it. We live 1.5 hours south of there. My brother lives in the burgh, and we visit him often. Great for families. Great location. Easy airport. Tons to visit and see. Lots of local flavor. Friendly people. It was on our list before we accepted the job in Alabama.

  42. whall says:

    That is great news for you guys. There’s Becky, Hellohahanarf, the redhead, the squeeeeeee’er, that smiley chick and an awesome friend waiting for you there.

    My wife and I moved to Oakdale, PA in ’92 for our honeymoon as a life-changing job-changing place-changing event. While I moved solely for the job, once we got there we did absolutely fall in love with the people, the culture, the four seasons of leaves and OMG the pasta, steak on a salad and food food food food. Our neighbors were the most friendly people we’d ever met.

    Although we only lasted there 6 months or so (job-related again), we were grateful for the time we spent.
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  43. How exciting. Change is good. Congrats!
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  44. Nicole says:

    Congratulations on living with courage!!! I hope you find happiness and joy in your new home. :)

  45. stephanie says:

    Congrats! Saw it on twitter and had to stop down to read! Good luck!
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  46. Poppy says:

    Harsh winters are an excuse to snuggle and drink warm beverages. :)

  47. JB says:

    It will be great – and all you need for winter is the right clothes, and it will be fine. Living in the shadow of sf (about 25 minutes to downtown) and sick sick sick of how expensive everything is. A house we looked at (slightly high for us) just had 17 (solid) offers, and it went 50,000 above asking. True story. Look forward to hearing about the adventure.

  48. Bob Mooney says:

    I spent a week in Pittsburgh a few years ago, it’s an awesome city! I could see myself living there.

  49. naomi says:

    So excited for you. Winters are ALWAYS horrible! As long as you’re not in the snow belts (which you won’t be) you’ll love it. There is a simple beauty in having four seasons, I miss them so much!!

    I personally think that the leaps of faith that accompany “blind” moves are the truly great, soul building and character changing things of life!
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  50. Kathy says:

    Good for you! One of my dearest friends and her husband lived in Pittsburgh for a time and I spent a week visiting them. It’s one of those cities whose 19th century past calls out to you when you poke around the city itself. (PS living in New York – sandwiched between Buffalo and Syracuse – where our winters are famous – you’ll take those winters in stride.) You’ll have the best of city and country because the surrounding area is gorgeous. And, yes to having four distinct seasons!
    Kathy’s most recent post: Just Another Pretty Dogwood Tree.

  51. Pat Jackson says:

    Welcome to our home – Pittsburgh. It is a great city, good place to raise kids, living costs are reasonable, etc….. you will LOVE it here.

  52. Suebob says:

    I knew it! The way you spoke about it when you were in CA let me know Pittsburgh had captured your hearts.
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  53. Fantastic. I just love how you are choosing to live your life. Enjoy Costa Rica. Jeff and I went there for our 10th anniversary and I hope to go back with the children. Such a wonderful country with hospitable, grateful people.
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  54. the muskrat says:

    Cool! I really enjoyed (and was surprised by) Pitt when I went for several days with the Air Force a couple years ago. Enjoy!
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  55. Very exciting- congrats! I was pleasantly surprised and really had a blast on Pitt a few years back on vacay. I’m hearing of more and more people moving there & some really great feedback about the city.
    Amanda @ Click. The Good News’s most recent post: Chicken Fried

  56. Audra says:

    Hooray! Does this mean I get to meet you sometime? We love to visit the Pittsburgh Children’s Museum.
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  57. Ex-Pat Pittsburgh Girl says:

    Yea!!!! I am so happy you guys chose Pittsburgh! I’m still working on getting myself back home (or at least closer to it). As for the harsh winters, having spent a couple of winters in New England (Connecticut and Vermont), Pittsburgh winters are not that bad. What is great about Pittsburgh is that you get four actual seasons. I’ve also lived in the Pacific Northwest and while the summers are absolutely beautiful, I prefer the sunny blue skies and 20 degree temperatures to the 5 months of dreary grey, rainy and sometimes bitter dampness. Looking forward to getting to know you and your family so much better!

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  59. MonicaWB says:

    Very cool! I met you last year in Pittsburgh (one of the women who shared the table with your group at the Mexican restaurant after Podcamp).

    I just moved back to Pittsburgh last year. It is a great city. Good choice!

    Best wishes with your move! Maybe we’ll cross paths again.

  60. We got funny looks when we decided to move to Kansas City, but it was for almost the same reasons as your relocation to Pittsburgh. Congratulations!

  61. Kent says:

    That’s exciting! We’ve never been. If we go, we’ll know someone (and will expect a tour!).
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