Every Monday, I start my week by highlighting what made me happy from the previous week, because I believe we multiply what we focus on, and that gratitude is the first step in learning how to be happier.
This was our first full week off the road and back in our hometown, our temporary home.
It didn’t feel as much like home as we had expected it would.
It’s obvious now that this adjustment won’t be perfect, easy, or smooth. While we have spent the last ten months on our American road trip living outside the confines of normal, the rest of the world has not. Trying to slip back into the familiar stream has been like putting a rebelliously square peg into a happily circular hole: we don’t quite fit anymore.
The hardest part has been making the connections we’ve come to value so much, both with each other and with our friends and family. We have made all this space and time in our lives, only to find that the people with whom we wanted to share it are still incredibly busy. It was hard not to take that personally, not to feel rejected and then embarrassed at our own neediness. It was a welcome relief this weekend to learn that Jared and I had both been wrestling with these same feelings; at least we weren’t alone in our loneliness.
Thankfully, the week ended on a high note, with a feast of what we’d been most hungry for: time with our loved ones.
We got to celebrate Easter with both of my parents and Jared’s parents, as well as brothers, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, nieces and nephews. Our kids must have been needing the extra love too, because they were both in spectacular moods throughout the holiday.
Jared and I are both people who need people. It is paramount to our happiness. That kind of dependency can be scary; it most certainly makes you vulnerable. I have faith we’ll figure it out.
It’s easier knowing we’re in it together.
What were the highlights of your week? Before you rush off into a new week, I invite you to play along and share your happiness highlights in the comments, or leave me a link to your own Happiness Highlights post.