Being Able to Say Yes

Take off take two.

We could have made plans to travel more without selling all of our stuff.

I could have continued to work for someone else, maybe even made more money doing sales for a big company that offered benefits and vacation days.

But we decided to unload. The stuff, the responsibilities, the weight. We decided to get rid of as much as we could, and it had nothing to do with wanting to take one really great vacation.

It was about being able to say, “yes.”

If someone calls and offers me a place to stay in Paris for a month, I want to be able to say, “yes! How soon can we come?”

That hypothetical opportunity has been my guide as I work to make us less rooted, less secure. No, no one has offered me a home in Paris for a month. No, I don’t know anyone who lives in Paris. But wouldn’t it be a damn shame if someone did make that offer, and we had to turn it down?

No, because I have to work.

No, because the kids have school.

No, because we have consumer debt to pay off.

No, because we have the house and cars and lawn and mountains of stuff that need to be maintained.

If someone invites my family and I to Paris, I want to be able to say yes.

I know that sounds crazy, but I also know that it’s not.

I’m in a Hyatt in Seattle right now. I was invited out here by Nintendo as part of their Brand Ambassador program (this is NOT a sponsored post). They wanted to pay for my air fare, pay for my hotel, buy me drinks and dinner, and give me about 48 hours to spend with really great people in a really cool city I’ve never been to before.

And I said yes.

I don’t know exactly what opportunities life is preparing for me, but I know they are out there. My job, I think, is not to guess and worry and plot about what those opportunities may be.

My job, I believe, is just to make sure I’m ready.

Would you be ready to say yes?

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  1. Would you be ready to say yes?

    Maybe. ;)

  2. Megan says:

    To an extent, yes. And to an extent, no. I’m working on it, though!

    • Miss Britt says:

      It’s totally a process. It’s not just a mindset – there’s shit you actually have to do that takes time. We’ve been working toward this for about five years.

  3. Becky says:

    You have nerves of steel, and balls way bigger than mine.
    And I’m jealous.
    I am just learning to say Yes when friends call and say Do you want to go out?
    Because I have spent so much of my life being tied down to kids and relationships that weren’t giving me what I wanted.
    Now? I am learning to say yes.
    And step outside the comfort zone I’ve created for myself which at this point resembles a cocoon.

    • Miss Britt says:

      Ah, yes. The guilt of even allowing yourself to say yes.

      I, um, kind of went through a really bad stage about 5 years ago because of not knowing how to say yes.

  4. Lisa says:

    I just increased my consumer debt by remodeling my kitchen so I have to say no-ish. If someone were to offer me a trip like you’re taking now (all expenses paid) I could absolutely do it because my son is grown and my work is flexible with time off. If I had to pay for it I’d have to pass right now. But that was a conscious choice. I spend a lot of time in my home and making it into what I want is important to me, moreso

    • Miss Britt says:

      Oh I couldn’t pay for it either! lol

      That freedom to “go” is a reflection of what opportunities *I* value. I don’t think the hypothetical question is a universal one at all.

      But I think we each have one.

      Maybe it’s a dream job. Maybe it’s a perfect piece of art, or furniture, or learning opportunity. I’m not sure.

  5. Love you and love the adventure you’re on!

  6. we are very different people! only place i want to go for a month is alaska. other than that, i am just fine here in pittsburgh. with my stuff. :)

    • Miss Britt says:

      We are all different!

      Wanting to go to Paris for a month is definitely MY perfect hypothetical.

      But I think you’re getting lost in the specifics. :) I think maybe we each have opportunities that are important for us to stay open to.

  7. Jamie says:

    Great post. What struck me — that what you are doing with tangible stuff and obligations, I’m doing more with intangibles. Worry (about can I do something or what people will think), fears (which is a bigger subset of worry)…Good luck

  8. Jamie says:

    Great post. What struck me — that what you are doing with tangible stuff and obligations, I’m doing more with intangibles. Worry (about can I do something or what people will think), fears (which is a bigger subset of worry)…Good luck

    • Miss Britt says:

      The intangibles come first! And then when you feel all smug and “I got this”? You start on the tangibles. And a new set of intangibles you didn’t even know you had come up! lol

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  10. martymankins says:

    You have and are putting yourself into a great place in life, being able to be free and able to do these kinds of trips and your US trek in an RV.

    This is a place that I would like to be in again someday. Enjoy this time.

    • Miss Britt says:

      I’m trying!

      I think you bring up a good point though – that it’s easy to get out of that place. I was just talking this weekend with someone about how you have to kind of be careful about what you put back into the spaces you make!

  11. Jack says:

    Enjoyed meeting you in Seattle. This trips sounds like a lot of fun. Sometimes the best things in life happen because you just go for it.

  12. kirida says:

    Gah, I would to say yes to Paris, but I have so big of a list that saying yes would not be for a long time. But I can say yes to dreaming and living vicariously through people who have said yes to paris and are living there right now, even for a year or two.

    And! I wanted to say hi to you at the mixer on Thursday but I was struck with the Social Awkwardness disease where my mouth doesn’t connect with my brain and I’m stuck just gawking at awesome people dancing around me. Hope you had fun in Seattle!

    • Miss Britt says:

      Oh damn this hurts my heart! I think I can be hard to approach in real life because I am so damn loud.

      Next time we should schedule a quiet meet one on one meet up, ok?

  13. Faiqa says:

    Damn, Britt. This was just awesome. Speechless. And, also, yes… WANT. InshaAllah.

  14. FireMom says:

    Mmm, one of the reasons I left the paper as well. Love it.

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  16. This idea is so inspiring. I’m so tired of my stuff. I was just telling my husband that I’d rather travel than ‘have’ and we are reassessing our priorities. I’m not sure that I’m up to your post on getting rid of shoes {shudder} but soon!

  17. racheal says:

    I can’t invite you to Paris…but I can invite you to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

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  19. I also can’t invite you to Paris, but I have two extra bedrooms in Mumbai, India!

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