I have been feeling the stress the last couple of weeks.

I told myself it was normal. I took the necessary steps to maintain my sanity – eating right, sleeping, shutting off the computer at night when I could not write one more damn word. I tried to be patient with myself.

But I still kind of felt like punching scowling strangers just to see how they’d react.

I made alone time a priority. I made it a point to stop and connect with my husband. I went to Walt Freaking Disney World for the weekend with my family.

Still biting people’s heads off.

I was, I thought, meeting every damn need a woman could possibly have. I resigned myself to being a bitch for the next two months as we navigated the murky waters of transition.

And then I got to spend several days swimming in the healing waters of friendship.

Photo courtesy of the beautiful Megan

My God. You guys.

Never underestimate the power of spending time with friends.

I talked and talked and talked and talked and talked. I laughed. I breathed fully and deeply without the subtle weight of caretaker.

I explored who I was, who I wanted to be, and who I used to be when I was 16 and stupid and oh my God can you believe we did that crap!

I had to sleep in until 10 am this morning to fully recover from the awesomeness of it all.

Friend time is not something I typically make a priority in my life. I am readily available if needed, but I fear being an intrusion on someone else’s busy life so I rely on my open door policy to keep my friendships afloat. That was all fine and good when I had people around me who walked through that door, but most of my local friends now have similar “you call me, I won’t remember to call you” habits of their own. The end result – and I didn’t even notice – has been a serious lack of really great girlfriend time.

Thank God for really great girlfriends.

I feel restored this morning, made lighter by the effervescence of giggles and verbal venting.

I think I need to get better at making friend time a priority.


This post is NOT sponsored. The following announcement, however, has to do with a sponsored activity. Ready?

On Tuesday March 22nd, I’m going to be co-hosting a live web video and chat on The Motherhood about encouraging daughters to get involved and participate in healthy activity. We’re going to be sharing ideas about helping our daughters build self-esteem and confidence, learn to make friends, and enjoy HEALTHY competition (as opposed to my family’s SUCK IT, LOSER! version, I think).

You can participate on Tuesday March 22nd at 1pm EST by clicking HERE. (You can also pre-register there.)

The talk is sponsored by Varsity in honor of National Cheerleading Safety Month and I’m being paid by The Motherhood for my involvement. If you’re wondering why I was asked to join in this conversation (and why I eagerly said yes), you obviously haven’t seen my awesome cheerleading moves.

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  1. Sometimes, having good friends, is sorely underrated.

    So glad you got to have your time.

  2. Megan says:

    Can’t tell you how much I needed that too. It was FABULOUS. And look how cute we are. :)

  3. Toni says:

    Glad you had a great time!

    Unfortunately, with my circle of girlfriends, I’m still the caretaker even when I’m not with my family. I’m the one planning, I’m the one calling, I’m always the one trying to make everyone’s schedules fit…sigh…after beating my head against the wall several times, I decided it wasn’t worth it. Now that I’ve stopped, we never get together at all. That either tells me that 1.) I am the glue or 2.) No one likes me. haha. Now? I just try and plan my alone time…alone. I kinda like it that way. :)

    • Miss Britt says:

      I feel like that’s where I’ve been for a while – which is why this week was SO good for me. These girls got on a plane and flew to Orlando so they could drive 5 hours in a damn car with me. No planning by me required.

  4. Toni says:

    How refreshing and stress-free to have someone else take care of everything.
    That’s a good group of girls :)

  5. Lisa says:

    I have been smiling all day. I needed this time so much more than I even thought I did and it was truly awesome. And Megan is right – we are damn cute!

  6. i didn’t even realize how much i needed the time away with my girlfriends. you women are incredible and it truly recharges my batteries when we get together. already happily looking forward to our next adventure. even if that adventure is just driving down the road together or hanging out around a fire and calling strangers pat o’shay.

    love yinz. so very much.

  7. forgot to giggle at you linking to my favorite post ever in the second part of your post…oh how i love you attempting a cheer these days

  8. Poppy says:

    I am hanging on by a thread until NoVaCon. I NEED my friends. NEED. I’ve hung out with local friends sporadically, but I’m still here, going home to the same bills and job (I love my job) and home responsibilities. And I just want to go play.

  9. Mandi Bone says:

    I will be having my girl weekend with Angie in May. I hope I get to see you also. It looked like you had fun on twitter.

  10. the muskrat says:

    I need some girlfriend time, too.

  11. martymankins says:

    What wonderful pics of all 4 of you. Followed your adventures on Twitter and smiled a lot (like Becky does)

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