According to him…

What does he see?

…I must have rawhide skin, because I take unnaturally hot showers.

…I make “scary noises” when I run.

…I should not be in charge of the Netflix queue because I cannot be trusted to pick out anything “decent”.

…there is, in fact, such a thing as “too many shoes”.

…it is completely unacceptable to ask a man to move his clothes into the guest room in order to make room for more shoes.

…I am getting smaller every day.

…I have ridiculously soft skin.

…I look so cute when my hair is a mess and I haven’t showered yet.

…there is no one else in the world that is better company than me.

Sometimes, most times, actually, I wish I could see myself through his eyes for just a moment.  I know I’d have to see the bitchiness and the selfishness and the argument that I probably shouldn’t have won.  But it would be worth it for even a quick glance at the way he describes me.  It would be worth it to know, once and for all, if those are things he says to be nice, or if there is really this other – this better - version of me living in someone else’s perception.

Some days, days like today, actually, just the possibility that this perception of me exists inspires me to be more.

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  1. Hockeymandad says:

    I’ve only been around you guys a few times and what I see in his eyes when he looks at you is special. Love.

  2. fan fucking tastic post!!

    it makes me crazy happy to know that you are hearing the great things jared says about you. that you are LISTENING and believing. because you are an incredible woman.

    this is gonna come out wrong, but i kinda wanna be the incredible person my dogs think i am. and the wonderful woman my cousin’s kid thinks i am.

  3. Laura says:

    Oh, love this. I so often just need to stop the chaos in my mind and remind myself in what my guy sees.

  4. Nanna says:

    Ah baby. This is wonderful. And he’s right.

  5. avitable says:

    What Becky said. It’s really awesome to see you listening and actually hearing the way that Jared sees you, without the whatever-the-opposite-of-rose colored glasses that you wear when you look at yourself.

  6. Finn says:

    We all need the opportunity to see ourselves through the eyes of someone who truly loves us.

    Tell him to write some of these on Post-Its so you can put them on your bathroom mirror and look at them every day. Read them out loud until you believe them.

    It’s wonderful that he tells you these things. He’s a good man, that one. :)

  7. Lisa says:

    It’s so hard to see past our own insecurities and look at ourselves through the eyes of those who see a different, better version of ourselves. Jason tells me nice things every day and most of the time I pass them off as “well he’s just being nice.” but still I walk a little taller whenever I hear them. I’m glad you’re taking what Jared says to heart. You ARE the person he sees.

  8. B.E. Earl says:

    I’ve made a bunch of similar comments about Gia that I wish she would embrace. Except for the soft skin thing. That’s something she says about me. I have the softest hands ever, according to her. A life spent shuffling paper and working on a computer, I guess.

  9. Becca says:

    It really is hard to just believe him sometimes isn’t it? I know when C says all the lovely things she says to me, I still find myself questioning it half the time when what I need to do is not make excuses and just believe her. She wouldn’t lie to me.

  10. Headless Mom says:

    I love this, Britt. I could use a dose of knowing what he’s thinking. Uh, my husband, not yours! ;-)

  11. Awww this kind of love is grown over the years. I love this post.

  12. mel says:

    how sweet is this! love.
    I have to say I disagree with him on one thing. There is no such thing as too many shoes.

  13. Sahar says:

    Any true friend of Faiqa’s would have to be a wonderful woman..great writing..

  14. Jared says:

    Love you baby!!

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