The Week Of Meh

I completed the second week of my 12 week Body-For-Life challenge.


I didn’t feel the same jubilant sense of accomplishment I felt after finishing my first week.  I was proud that I managed to hop right back into routine on Monday morning after my first “free day” last Sunday, but beyond that… meh.

I didn’t miss a workout.  I didn’t waver from my nutritional plan.  I did everything exactly like I was supposed to do for the second straight week.  But I can tell that my excitement is quickly fading.  I’m not sure why, because I’m only 1/6th of the way to completing my goal.  It’s way too soon for me to be getting bored.

And yet… *shrug*… meh.

When I got home from the gym this morning, I couldn’t feel my arms.  Jared asked if I felt like a 10 year old could beat me up, because apparently that is the mark of having done a good job at the gym.  “I’m pretty sure a cat could beat me up right now,” I said.  “I’d just lay there and wag my fingers while whining ‘get offfffff me’.”  Jared grinned and bounced in his chair a little, excited about how well I’d done.

“That’s great!” he beamed.

“Yeah,” I conceded.  Meh.

I’m not considering quitting, but I’m also a little discouraged that I’m not leaping out of bed at 5am to get to the gym or riding the pride high of accomplishment during the day.  I want to feel like I’m pushing myself and enjoying hitting the milestones along the way.  I want to get back some of that excitement I felt during the first week, when each day that passed represented another sign of success.

Maybe it’s the lack of tangible results at this early stage.  Last week I didn’t care about numbers on a scale or inches on a tape measure because just the fact that I was doing it provided a payoff.  But now?  Yeah, yeah, I’m doing it.  Been there, done that, still doing it.  Whatever.

I think my toddler-like attention span is most likely to blame.  I need something new to work towards, which is ridiculous, I know, because I’m still technically working towards the same 12 week long term goal.  But 12 weeks is like for-ev-er and it doesn’t excite me on a day to day basis.  I need another mini-goal to get pumped up about, and one that’s more Ooh!  Shiny! than Rinse, Repeat.

Unfortunately, I’m kind of drawing a blank there.  A friend of mine told me about a reward system she had set up for herself based on special purchases every 10 pounds, but I’ve only got 20 pounds total that I want to lose – and according to the god forsaken scale, I lost 3.5 pounds between days 1 and 11, and gained 4 pounds between days 12 and 14.  (Which – seriously?  SERIOUSLY?  Fuck you bathroom harbinger of doom.  Fuuuuuck yooooouuu.)

People have talked about taking measurements, which I did, but I have absolutely no sense of what measurements are good or bad, or how quickly I should be expected to move from one to the other.

The only thing I feel like I can control, and therefore monitor and reward myself for, is successfully getting through the days and weeks.

Rinse.  Repeat.  Meh.

Any suggestions?

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  1. mel says:

    Gah, I wish I had some advise. I read that Jillian Michaels dark chocolate in her daily calorie count. That’s the reward she fits in for herself daily. I love me some dark chocolate, but I need to feel the pounds coming off.

    I think measurements you will feel in your clothing, so I don’t measure. I’ll be checking back in here to if anyone came up with some good ideas.

  2. Robin says:

    I’m so not in any position to give any ideas but I will say my cat CAN beat me up, I don’t want to know what that says about me.

  3. You could reward yourself each week for following the plan and not wavering?
    Or set new and exciting goals for yourself?

    I got nothing else…I lost weight mostly by diet, the exercise thing is not something I thrive at…


  4. avitable says:

    I was going to suggest what PotU said. Reward yourself for sticking to it each week. Get a pedicure, a new pair of shoes, all things that are luxuries, but only if you stuck with it for the week.

    Or, Jared and I can dress up as cheerleaders and do splits and shout “GooooOOOO BRITT!”

  5. Lindsy says:

    You could always give yourself negative reinforcement; if you don’t cheer up and enjoy the workout, you’ll need to walk to your car topless after the workout.

    Or, if you want something more positive, you could treat yourself…like, if you are all cheery and excited during your workout today, you can _________. Have a martini? Watch a movie? Get a babysitter? I don’t know. It’s not rocket science; it’s exercise. And exercise sucks.

  6. Lisa says:

    What motivates us is so individual that it’s really hard to use someone else’s tricks. Sometimes just getting through the week warrants a reward because it’s HARD, so maybe hubs and I will go get a frozen yogurt or something else I wouldn’t normally eat that still fits in my plan.

    Have you tried changing your workout playlist? Sometimes it’s as easy as having fresh tunes to get you going again.

  7. muskrat says:

    I would get your body fat % checked if you can. That’s a better gauge of how things are going that weight changes, since muscle outweighs fat.

    • Zoeyjane says:

      @muskrat, What he said. It will totally be a better (more viable and tangible) form of gauging success. AND keep in mind that weight can fluctuate according to how much water you’ve been drinking, hormones and even whether you’ve uhm, dropped the kids off at the pool.

    • Miss Britt says:

      @muskrat, I did actually do that when I started.

      How often should I have it checked to look for progress?

  8. Finn says:

    First thing: Don’t weigh yourself so much. If you must, do it like once a week. I think I already pointed out to you that your weight will go up and down. Yes, I’m sure I did. Hell, I even wrote a post about it. Measure yourself every two to three weeks. Look for half-inch changes or better. Don’t worry about exactly what the numbers are, just focus on them going in the proper direction: Down.

    Next thing: Although this is a 12-week challenge, you are really trying to create a habit, a lifestyle change. Keep moving forward. When your pants get looser you’ll get excited again. It waxes and wanes, but at some point you’ll discover that you just don’t feel right if you miss a workout.

  9. Michelle says:

    Keep it up, it’s motivating me. :-)

  10. Steve says:

    You sound like me. I can’t exercise just for its own sake. There has to be a point to it all. It wasn’t until I was 36 and stumbled onto brazilian jiu-jitsu that I found something that challenged me physically AND intellectually. I discover new things each week.

    Point isn’t that you should sign up for jiu-jitsu (although it’s a really good sport for women, too). But maybe you’re like me. Maybe you need to find something that challenges your body and your spirit as well, whether it’s triathalons, hot yoga, jiu-jitsu or whatever.

    Good luck.

  11. Sarah M. says:

    I understand your mehs. Going through the same thing now with the training I’m doing. I try to focus on the little accomplishments, which help a little. Once the reps don’t hurt so much or you go up in weights or you’re not as out of breath on the treadmill. Sometimes I really have to focus on finding them, but they’re there. Without winning the little battles we’ll never win the war. I can’t believe I just said that…

    Anyway, keep it up!!

  12. RW says:

    I’m posting my weight every Monday morning. Because of the off week (semi-vacation, grand-daughter here all week and not being attentive to the game plan, Easter) I put 1 pound back on, so I’m not too bad but I DO understand the “meh”.

    My motivation is that thing above my belt I see in the mirror. I simply hate looking like this, 56 years old or not, this just ain’t right. I’m not going to be Joe Sixpack ever again, but I sure don’t want to look like a pig. That’s my anti-meh talk.

  13. DallasDiva says:

    I totally think you should go with the week to week reward. It takes 28 days to make a habit or some crap like that. So, you have to hang in there for 4 weeks to get to the point you are rolling.

    And, don’t do it for the inches or the pounds. Think about how much better you are going to feel, buffer, leaner, meaner.

  14. Nancy says:

    I’m with you. My attention span is way too short for some of these long-term fitness goals. Right now, I’m working on three things at a time…bringing my lunch to work at least 4 days a week (I LOVE to eat out and I pay for it)…I work out 5 days a week…and I get in at least 24 oz. of straight-up water a day. That’s it. Once I’ve got that mastered, I’ll add a layer…like changing my shred workout to a pilates DVD. It’s not much, but I bore quickly.

  15. Glynis says:

    I, too, am with you Britt – good for you for starting this. I’m going on an 8 week fitness plan in May and am already wondering if I will have the attention span to stick to it. It has to be an every day “I did something good for myself and yeah me! clap clap clap” thing. And everyone who says don’t get on the scale every day is right. Throw the damn thing out. Just try to find motivation in actually going to the gym every day. It’s all I got, from someone who is definitely NOT Sporty Spice.

  16. i know i am supposed to be all motivating and encouraging and shit, but i can’t get over what just might be the best thing i will read all week:
    Fuck you bathroom harbinger of doom. Fuuuuuck yooooouuu.

  17. Sunny says:

    You’re in that spot that always hits me about that time. For the first week I’m golden, but if I don’t see instant results I get discouraged and grumble “why bother?” and freak out on my hubby.

    I reward myself with violet crumble candy bars. They are incredibly awesome, in my opinion, but have to be special ordered because they’re from Australia.

    And to answer your previous question that I kept forgetting to answer on that other comment, yes, my hubby and I were planning on starting on the 7th, but I don’t have any guidance yet so we’re kind of floundering in the water right now. We don’t have/can’t afford a gym membership and since our son stays with me all day, it makes it a little difficult to work out anyway.

    My Blend-tec should be here soon though, so maybe that will help kick us off. Perhaps we could get together with you sometime and compare notes?

    Keep it up!

  18. Hockeymandad says:

    Hmmm, when I was in high school I worked out twice a day 5 days a week. Mostly because I was on the weightlifting team.

    I think a weekly reward is what you should look for. Something simple but satisfying that you will deny yourself should you not succeed. Like maybe next weekend we all go to the mouse house for a day of magic.

  19. pocket_queen says:

    I agree that you should keep your goals weekly, and maybe tie the reward to your free day? I know that a special dish can be a great motivator for me.. and if you feel like you really exceeded your expectations then add another reward like manicure, new top or something like that. Eitherway, good luck!

  20. Remember, it takes 21 days to form a habit… you’ll be okay, get through next week and I bet you’ll be surprised.

  21. I’ll parrot everyone else: weekly rewards! Those truly work the best (said the one who hasn’t run — aside from softball practice — in over a week). I guess I need weekly rewards, too. :D

  22. Put the scale away. Far away. It is not your friend, it is a liar. Seriously, the human body weight can flucuate(fuck. not my computer, no spell check, oh the horror!) a ridiculous amount just between AM and bedtime.

    I don’t know this Body for Life thing, but can you vary your routine? Like maybe do a class or video for cardio instead of the treadmill (or whatever)?
    Also, did you know it’s TOTALLY possible to balance a book while on a stationery bike? Or check your google reader/twitter via your phone?

  23. Good Lord, don’t go by your weight. Muscle is heavier than fat. I like the whole “Stuck by it for a week, gonna purty up my feet.” thing. Or even “Stuck through another week, going to buy 2/5/10 new workout songs for the iPod.” And track your progress by how your clothes feel. A toned, muscled body will fit into clothes better. That should be your measuring stick, so to speak.

    And, hey, I’m damned proud of you, hon!

  24. Karen says:

    I read tonight that it can take 5+ weeks to see – really see – results. Don’t give up or I’ll kick your ass myself. And I’ve been working out. Also I can definitely beat your tobacco ass in a race. ;)

  25. jodifur says:

    Get off the scale.

    Seriously. The scale is not your friend. Go by how your clothes fit.

    For example, I recently lost 10 pounds.

    BUT, my whole body changed and I look completely different. People are like ohmyg-d YOURARESOTHIN and I’m really not all that thin, but I just look DIFFERENT.

    So, just stop with the scale #. Take your measurements and go with that. Because the # on the scale is just that. A # How do you feel? Because that is what matters.

    (It has taken me 20 years to learn this.)

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