Is It Too Late For 10 Things I Learned In 2009? (See also: rhetorical questions.)

Monday, January 4th, 2010

You know why blogs are better than babies?

Because you can ignore them for days and days and weeks and weeks and they are still here.

Don’t try that shit with babies.  Seriously.

I plan to tell you all about our New Year’s Eve party – including the part where Jared showed up without a shirt on and I proved once and for all that I should have been a rock star.  And surely at some point I will mention the awesomeness that is Disney’s Animal Kingdom and being able to go to Disney whenever you want for free and how that also means being able to go home right exactly when you are ready to.  And maybe eventually I will get around to finally writing and posting that scathing letter to Victoria’s Secret about their Christmas lingerie.  And for absolutely sure I will be reminding you about my impending 30th birthday.

But not today.  Today, exactly already four days after 2009 is old news, I’m going to go ahead and jump on the Reflecting on 2009 Bandwagon.  Because being a follower is seriously underrated in today’s society.  Consider this my commentary on the tragic overuse of words like “trailblazer” and “trendsetter” and “thought leader”.  I’m not lazy, I’m making a statement!

Ahem.

ANYway.

10 Things I Learned In 2009

1. This is never it.  Change is both possible and inevitable.  Always.

2. There are a lot of people in The South who are still reallllllly bitter about The Civil War The War Of Northern Aggression.

3. We have not yet, as a society, evolved beyond the capacity for hope.

4. And in the end, hope is what makes the difference.

5.  The opposite of hope, and the most notable marker of depression, is despair.

6. The greatest gift you can give is forgiveness.

7. Second to that is an iPhone.

8. Reading through your old blog archives is a really great way to accidentally waste an hour of the Monday after the holiday break.  Shit.

9. Reading through your old blog archives is also a really great way to remind yourself how bad things can get.

10. Reminding yourself how bad things can get is a really, really great way to remind yourself to be exceedingly grateful for the fact that things can change.

You know, that pretty much sums up what I learned in 2009.  That time keeps moving.  That things change.  That good things can turn into bad things and bad things can turn into good things and there is no decision in the world that is right enough that it will prevent change from happening again.

And so you don’t even bother with predicting the future or being right enough for anything more than right now.  You just hang on to the faith that there will always be more good things to come and you make the best next choice you can – and you hope that will be enough.

So, thanks for that, 2009.  Here’s to learning something much cooler in 2010.

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  1. Robin says:

    “And so you don’t even bother with predicting the future or being right enough for anything more than right now. You just hang on to the faith that there will always be more good things to come and you make the best next choice you can – and you hope that will be enough.”

    Exactly.

  2. Finn says:

    Sounds like a plan to me!

  3. pocket_queen says:

    Great post. But all I want to know is: what about the VS Christmas lingerie? What I can see is their selling point just got cheaper, sluttier (is that how you spell that?).. like they’re trying to appeal men more than women. It just made the whole thing unappealing to me.. and I was a big fan. That’s one thing I learned from 2009, recession makes for desperate crappy marketing sometimes… haha

  4. Lisa says:

    It’s kind of comforting after a while, to know that change is inevitable. If you can wait out the bad stuff long enough, change will come.

  5. Bre says:

    I want an iPhone but I don’t wanna admit it…
    I like this, cut and dried.
    Also? Happy-same-birthday-month!
    (I’ll be 23 on the 24th).

  6. Headless Mom says:

    I know that it sounds so trite but this is really and excellent post, Brit. Really. And so true!

  7. Aw man…now I have that “time keeps on slippin, into the fu-ture” song stuck in my head.

    This will make for a long day.

  8. avitable says:

    To be fair, you can ignore a baby for 1-2 days without many ill effects. I know, because I’m a doctor.

  9. SciFi Dad says:

    If writing a blog is navel gazing, is reading one’s archives for an hour sort of like holding two mirrors up to one another?

  10. Dave2 says:

    In most cases, I’d rather have the iPhone than forgiveness. Just sayin’…

  11. bo says:

    Change is the way of things. Absosmurfly.

  12. Kristin says:

    May I please tell you that I laughed outloud and LOUD about the War of Northern Aggression? I’m here in Oklahoma and I teach US history at the college level and I actually have to stop and say aloud “Yes, you heard me right. The South lost the Civil War. Call me crazy but when your lead general surrenders to our lead general, you lose.” I actually don’t get a lot of crazies but I’ve had a few and it just amazes me. Oh thanks for that chuckle!

  13. I agree on the iPhone as the second best gift ever. Here’s to a much better 2010 for everyone!

  14. Michelle says:

    Screw cooler, we like you just the way you are, be your damn non-trailblazing self forever please.

    Dying to know what you’re doing for your 30th.

  15. I really enjoyed this post and I’m glad that you see these things. I hope I can look back and take something from 2009 that I can use to keep moving forward.

  16. Jennifer says:

    We have arguments over the Civil War frequently. In Iowa, we learned the basics. In Virginia, my husband learned A LOT more about it. His dad even gave him books called “The South was Right.” We are friends with a true southern belle who told me, “my daddy said there wasn’t a damn thing civil about it.” Anyway, the topic is a source of much enjoyment in our house. :)

  17. muskrat says:

    So, there’s something wrong with my family’s saving their Confederate money? Don’t be a hater.

  18. Beth says:

    #2 made me laugh out loud, my husband and I saw a ginormous confederate flag on 75 the other day…it was in that moment that we knew in our hearts we needed to move!

    • Miss Britt says:

      @Beth, um – first let me say that your “digital guide” just made it to my “list of things I have GOT to find time for!”

      Ahem. Anyway.

      I HAVE SEEN THAT FLAG!! But the weather is too good here. lol

  19. Hilly says:

    I’m always amazed at what I can learn about myself just by reading through blog archives so I totally get that feeling. :)

    You’ve come a long way, baby…and continue to!

  20. Elliott Ng says:

    I identified with #8.

    “Reading through your old blog archives is a really great way to accidentally waste an hour of the Monday after the holiday break. Shit.”

    I spent a ton of time writing up navel-gazing “best of 09 post” for my blog at CNReviews that, based on the lack of comments, no one except for me has bothered to read. Oh well, there’s still time for 2010 to be a great year!

    So glad I had the chance to meet you in Orlando in 2009.

  21. lceel says:

    An excellent post, Miss Britt. But I’m not so sure that societal moves beyond hope would be an evolution. It seems more like it would be DEvolution, to me.

    • Miss Britt says:

      @lceel, actually, I agree. But I think that we tend to talk about hope as if it is a childish, naive emotion. I’m glad to see that our pseudo intelligence hasn’t outmatched our need for something to hold on to.

  22. Ginger says:

    “The greatest gift you can give is forgiveness…Second to that is an iPhone.”

    LMAO…classic! :)

  23. Hockeymandad says:

    Give us a shout next time you wanna do Disney. We go ALLLLL the time with passes of or own so we REALLY know our way around. I haven’t used a map in ages! Besides, then we could get to ride the grown up rides too! ;)

  24. Selma says:

    Or in lieu of an iPhone the brand new iMac with the 27 inch screen. Is it wrong to want to sleep with my computer? ROFL.

  25. Liz Hover says:

    Horrah! This post made me laugh out loud. And let’s be honest here, many of your posts last year weren’t anything to laugh about.

    Wishing you and yours a rock ‘n roll 2010.

  26. yep, more good is right around the corner! be the good…

  27. I want forgiveness AND an iPhone.

    I’m needy like that.

    Happy New Year, my friend! XOXOX

  28. Becca says:

    I have learned that life moves on, no matter who you lost or how old your children get, or that you didn’t get the job you desperately wanted. I have also learned that if I just keep breathing in and out I may feel normal (for me) again some day.

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