A Letter To Your Son

Thursday, July 30th, 2009

Dear Baby Boy,

I already know the name that your parents are going to call you.  I’m saying it in my head now as I think of you.  I’m hearing the way your mother says it, and wondering if I will ever be able to make it sound half as beautiful as she does when I whisper it to you.

No, I’m not wondering.  I know I won’t.  No one will.  No one will ever be able to say your name or touch your face or rock you to sleep in exactly the same way that your mother does.

You’ll see.

And you’ll also see, little man, that your father is one hell of a role model.  You will do well to follow in his footsteps.  I hope you’ll grow up understanding just how lucky you are to have him as a guide.

But that’s not what I want to tell you.  You won’t need me to tell you how much they love you, because your parents are two of the most loving people in the world – and you will know from the moment you take your first breath that you are cherished.

No, little Y., what I want to tell you about is the rest of us.  Those of us who are waiting eagerly to meet you.  To hold you.  To smell your new born smell and touch your new born hair.  We’re waiting to see you open those big brown eyes of yours and see if you observe your surroundings just as cautiously as your older sister.

We are waiting for you.

We are looking at the world around us and wondering how we can make it better for you.

We are anxious to help teach you about the good in the world and to fill you up with praise and encouragement.

We – I – want you to see your parents the way I do.  I want you to see their grace as much as their intelligence.  And I want you to know how blessed you are to be born into such a loving family.

I want you to know that you are enough.  You couldn’t possibly be anything less than that.  Your parents will have big dreams for you and they will believe in your ability to achieve those dreams more fiercely than you can imagine.  And at the same time, they will already know that you possess every single thing you need to make your way in the world.

Someday.

But for now – we’re still waiting.

And soon you’ll be here, much too small for dreams or futures or plans.

Small enough that we can, for a while, protect you from anything that hurts.  Shield you from sadness and disappointment.  Surround you with love and faith and security.

And while your parents are trying desperately to keep up with it all – the feedings and the late nights and the exhaustion and the diapers and the raising and caring of this brand new tiny person – we will be here.  I will be here.  Cheering for them.  And for you.

I want you to know, Y., the one thing that everyone deserves to know.

That, more than anything, you are loved.  You are wanted.  Your happiness and health are prayed for.

Already, sweet child, you are loved.

Even before you are born.

Love,

That crazy lady that your parents will make you call Miss Britt, all the while telling you not to listen to anything she says.

  1. Britt,

    I have no words. This is pure beauty. So sweet, so wonderful. You are truly amazing, you have such a gift honey.

    • Miss Britt says:

      @rachel-asouthernfairytale, thank you. I actually really appreciate that and am a little surprised because this was written verrry late last night and I wasn’t sure how it came out in the end.

      So – again – thank you.

  2. melissa says:

    that was beautiful.

  3. Just Me says:

    I am in tears. THE. BEST. WRITING. EVERY! Its truly you. And we are all lucky to have you here.

  4. Mary Clark says:

    That is so beautiful. You are a wonderful friend.

  5. awwwww… so sweet. lucky boy.

  6. Dawn says:

    That is a beautiful gift that you just gave him and his parents.

  7. Avitable says:

    Well, now *I* have to do one, too, and it won’t even come close to being as awesome as this one, and Faiqa will stop calling me every night and telling me I’m her super secret bestest friend and she’ll start calling you and now you’ve ruined my life.

  8. MariaV says:

    Absolutely beautiful.

  9. Becca says:

    Oh Britt, you have such a way with words, they are so beautiful in your hands.

  10. *Bre* says:

    I was goose-pimpled and misty-eyed reading this. Wow, Britt! You should write storylines or something: this would be an award winning scene in a movie, I’m sure of it!
    Very well done, Miss Britt!

  11. Bacardi Mama says:

    Absolutely one of the most beautiful and touching posts I have ever read. I hope his mommy prints this for him to read someday.

  12. awwwwww cut it out – this kind of thing makes me want to move to florida. so sweet.

  13. SciFi Dad says:

    As if she doesn’t have enough pressure! ;)

    Very sweet Britt. He’s lucky to have a crazy lady like you in his life.

  14. perpstu says:

    Absolutely beautiful Britt! I would print it out and frame it if it were for my baby. Hypothetical baby of course, no buns in this oven!

  15. Finn says:

    If this doesn’t coax him outta there, nothing will. Lovely.

  16. Awww you made me all teary and sniffly, sitting in my car at the doctor’s office. Now people think I’m a little crazy, which isn’t all that bad I guess. Beautifully written!

  17. There are some people who know from somewhere deeply inside their souls that children are, indeed, the anchors that tie parents to life. You are one of these people, and to express your feelings about this new little life, whom you’ve not yet even met, is an incredible gift to his parents and to the world. I read your Second Chance Dad post, too, and this gives me another peek into your soul. You come from a place of not only great brilliance, but also great forgiveness and a sense of life as it unfolds. You, Miss Britt, are a philosopher. A modern-day philosopher with a great following. I wonder if sometimes you grasp the impact/inspiration/humor/life that you bring to people through this most interesting medium. You are much like Epicurus, who wrote: It is never too early nor too late to care for the well-being of the soul.

    You take care of many souls on many levels day after day after day. AND you make us laugh. What a blessed combination.

    • Miss Britt says:

      @Sharon – Mom Generations, I still have no words for this, Sharon.

      I’m just.. it’s a lot. A lot that you said.

      Humbled isn’t a big enough word for it.

  18. Faiqa says:

    This ranks with the top 5 most wonderful things anyone has ever done “for me.” You’re amazing and I love you. Thank you for this.

  19. Maria says:

    This was so sweet, lady.

    I need my friends to start making some BABIES.

  20. Tariq says:

    Damn Britt. This is a wonderful ‘gift’. I feel like hugging you. Btw…you could totally write an Indian movie script…and direct the choreography! :)

    • Miss Britt says:

      @Tariq, I could, and it would be awesome, and you would all dance along!

      And you can totally hug me next time you see me. It’s allowed.

  21. Kristin says:

    WOW! What an awesome post babe…
    do I know these people?

  22. Kim says:

    That was made of WIN !!
    And so are you !

    I’ll stop kissing your ass now!

  23. Shash says:

    You always know the perfect thing to say. :)

    I can’t wait to meet him too, but I’m glad you guys are here close to Faiqa and Tariq, because he deserves to know you and love you.

    Just like the rest of us here in FL. :)

    Love ya. xo

    • Miss Britt says:

      @Shash, *I* always know the perfect thing to say?? Did you read my LAST post?? LOL

      The kid is going to have a line up waiting to say hi.

  24. Sybil Law says:

    Not to mention, he’s going to be GORGEOUS – like his sister!
    Awesome letter. :)

  25. If I ever cause another gestational period, I’m having you write about it.

  26. charlene says:

    miss britt~i know you love to cook and i have opened a cooking blog and i am giving away a wonderful chopper~~it’s replaced several very expensive kitchen gadgets

    you can enter to win here http://chariscooking.wordpress.com/2009/07/30/gourmet-quick-chop-2000/

    and this was a wonderful baby present!

  27. you gave me chills and tears. that is powerful writing, my friend.

    what i love most about this post is that i, as a woman who doesn’t want to have babies, is thrilled by this feeling of eager anticipation and excitement. you beautifully captured exactly my emotions and joy for my friends and family.

    my favorite children’s book (other than the little prince, of course) is debra fraiser’s “on the day you were born” and i truly think this post rivals its greatness. please consider working with a talented illustrator and getting this published.

  28. whall says:

    I’m just gonna say “wow” and leave it that but I’ll also encapsulate it in an explanation about saying “wow” that doesn’t make me just leave a one-word comment that would seem lame, like I hadn’t put any thought in it or something.

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