Romance

Monday, February 16th, 2009

We almost never do anything for Valentine’s Day. I almost always end up disappointed because I like to set my expectations high and assume that history is no way to accurately predict future results. Sure, he’s never bought flowers, but this will be the year he springs for sky writing!

(By the way, sky writing? The most awesome idea EVER. I’m a sucker for public declarations of affection. At least, I’m pretty sure I am. In theory. At least, so far it is just in theory.)

ANYway, not a big fan of Valentine’s Day. Too many rituals and mushy stories to remind me that my husband is not the world’s best planner and therefore obviously doesn’t love me as much as yours loves you.

(What? That makes perfect sense. It is always a good idea to judge your relationship based on another relationship between two completely different people. Almost as good as judging your current relationship based on your past relationships with other people. I am a relationship genius, people!)

I promise that is the last paragraph I end in italics. Right after this one.

Ack! Concentrate, Britt!

Let me jump to the conclusion to ensure you don’t miss it in all this rambling:

This Valentine’s Day was awesome. Better than awesome. One of the top ten nights of my life awesome. Possibly one of the most romantic nights in the entire history or romantic nights. Ever. And this paragraph would be much better with a concluding sentence in italics, and you know it.

Ahem. Sorry.

ANYway, we didn’t plan anything for Valentine’s Day. We had assumed, as most couples with children do, that we wouldn’t have a babysitter and would spend the night at home. However, at the very last minute (seriously – Friday night/Saturday morning last minute), our regular sitter confirmed that she was available and willing to watch the kids for a few hours.

A reliable sitter without Valentine’s Day plans of her own? It was obvious that God was pretty much demanding that we go out and celebrate.

You can’t say no to God, people.

Of course, it was Saturday morning before I knew we were doing anything. Apparently everyone else in the entire world plans for Valentine’s Day about a year in advance and we knew there was no way we were getting reservations anywhere.

Damn. This story is starting to drag.

ANYway – long story short:

We drove over to a tiny restaurant right off the water that we usually take the kids to when they have to pee while we’re at the beach. We waited 40 minutes for a table, and killed the time by walking up and down the beach together. In the dark.

If you’ve never had a chance to walk along a nearly deserted beach at nigh, add it to your Things To Do Before You Die List.

*sigh*

After dinner, we took a couple of blankets back down to the beach and just… sat there. Well, I mean, we didn’t just sit there. We hugged and kissed and leaned on one another. We sighed and whispered and just… well, sat there. Basically.

We were home by 10 o’clock. Dinner was $28 and the sitter was $40. I can’t think of anything else I’d have rather spent that $68 on, or one more thing any of us could have bought that could have made the night more perfect.

I was reminded how much being together helps. Everything. I was reminded how the biggest strain on our relationship has always come from a lack of time together.

I was reminded how everything in the world is better with him.

The sky. The sand. The water. The dark. All things I’ve soaked up without him a dozen times. All things I love on my own. But standing beside him… changes everything.

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  1. avitable says:

    I’m glad that you finally got a VD that you deserved.

  2. avitable says:

    I just totally realized that it sounds like I was saying you deserve a venereal disease. I was being sincere, dammit!

  3. Turnbaby says:

    Oh my yes–so many people never get that.

  4. B.E. Earl says:

    Very nice.

    And the anti-romantic in my can’t believe that you can find dinner for two for $28 these days. Sweet!

  5. Britt's Mom says:

    Oh sweetheart how wonderful.

  6. TSM_Oregon says:

    Fabulous! Three cheers to love conquering all (including italics….almost).

  7. AnnaRebecca says:

    Never say no to God. ;-)
    And I’m glad it was great!

  8. Aww, that’s such a sweet post Britt. Thank you for this.
    xo

  9. Aaron says:

    That is so romantic :) you both deserve every second of every moment!

  10. Mr Lady says:

    God, that sounds nice. I as so happy for you guys. That walk on the beach bit kills me, every time. That’s the epitome of romance, if you ask me.

  11. It was a hard week for me. We’ve just moved our baby to his own room and I’d been waking up every two hours. My Honey read me and went away with the baby to her parents for the weekend so I could spend time with the dogs and with the TV and with the bed. We didn’t spend a romantic night together, but really, she got me exactly what I needed for Valentine’s. You know?

  12. Sarah says:

    Now that’s a Valentine’s. I’m happy you had a wonderful night.

  13. Nikki says:

    It’s never what you spend your time doing; it’s who you spend that time with.

    I’m glad you guys had a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

  14. Gaah. That’s awesome. I had a great one too.

  15. Dawn says:

    So sweet! :)

  16. Robin says:

    I am happy you and Jared got time together.

  17. Kristin says:

    Sounds AMAZING!
    Glad you had a great Valentine’s Day!

  18. Sybil Law says:

    I LOVE the beach at night!!!
    Glad you got a great night out for VD.
    xo

  19. Brittany says:

    Good for you two! Seriously, I couldn’t agree more, sometimes, you need to just step and and reconnect, and that was a steal at $68!

  20. i am so happy to hear that you didn’t say no to god and that you had a spectacular night. yay!

    this was a wonderful post, britt.

  21. NYCWD says:

    That sounds like an awesome night!!!

    Not only did you not get stuck with any medical waste washing up on the beach… but you did all that for under $100!!!

    You’re fiscally responsible as well as romantically inclined.

    Are you sure you’re a Democrat?

  22. Perfect Valentine’s Day. When you reconnect and remember why you love each other.

  23. Sounds delightful. I love the beach at night, lighting a fire and huddling round it to keep warm, lovely.

  24. Mindee says:

    In the end, it’s never about the money is it? It’s the person and the place and the time.

  25. Marie says:

    I can’t believe a sitter nowadays costs more than the romantic dinner !! That’s just the frugal in me coming out!
    But dang, that sounds like a wonderful night. The beach sounds beautiful – so glad you had to wait for a table.

    Hugs,
    Marie

  26. The actually BEING together and spending time ( as opposed to money) on each other is what truly makes a relationship. Sure, I am not gonna lie, gifts will get you laid. BUT spending a wonderful evening with JUST me, that is going to make me yours forever…..

  27. favre, brett says:

    Why is this always about you? It’s MY birthday.

  28. Jill says:

    My mom reads and raves about you. I just had to pop in.

    Btw, I just typed pop and it accidentally came out as poop. Almost fell out my chair laughing. I’m okay now, really.

    I love sentences that end in italics. And, if you notice, setting your expectations LOW always end in the best result. You’re either okay with the result or head over heels, as you weren’t expecting much.

    Sounds like your sweet hubs redeemed himself. Bravo! :) Putting the dark beach thing on my list now…

  29. Nighttime on the beach is my idea of bliss. It may be because my first *ahem* romantical *ahem* experience w/ Mr Sir was on the beach at night.

    What restaurant? May have to drive out for $28!

  30. Tonz says:

    And that was probably just as good as a planned one because there was no pressure on either party for it to be perfect.

    Beautiful!!

  31. Faiqa says:

    I think your Valentine’s date captured the essence of what it’s really about.

    Getting away from our children and not having to cook, of course.

    (I’m glad you had a good time — you both deserve it).

  32. avitable says:

    This is a comment saying how much I love your blog.

  33. Miss Britt says:

    Thanks Adam. Now tell me if you get this answer via email or if it breaks my blog and I have to punch you in the nuts.

    either or

  34. Courtney says:

    Awwww, that sounds like a wonderful night!

  35. Karl says:

    Aw, that makes me all gushy inside. Very sweet.

  36. SciFi Dad says:

    Our Valentine’s Day was a dinner (that I cooked) in with the kids. Yours sounds better, therefore you have a better relationship than we do.

  37. Poppy says:

    Large bodies of water have a calming effect on most people.

    I was doing slow dancing in small circles on Valentine’s Day, and I enjoyed it very much.

  38. The Bug says:

    There is no better relationship than one that is strained when the participants are apart…Andy and I are always more stressed when we can’t spend time together, and so peaceful when we have days on end. I can’t wait to grow old and retire with him!

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

  39. I’m also a romantic turned anti-romantic because my husband never does those things. Deep down I always wish he would, but in real life I tell people I hate it. LOL

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