Another boy – with foreskin

Wednesday, October 1st, 2008
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SciFiDad is having a baby today!

Well, OK, he isn’t having a baby. His wife is having a C-section today.

This will be their second child, first son, and reading his blog over the last few months has been an interesting walk down the proverbial memory lane. He is terrified. Excited, of course, but also dealing with that unique sense of terror that can only come after you have had one child and know exactly what the hell you’re getting yourself into.

And then there are the doubts that every parent confronts when they stand at the threshold of my daughter/son whose name we use when talking about her/him and THE KIDS.

Will there be enough? Enough time? Enough money? Enough love and affection? Will this second child inevitably be second class because there is just no way you could ever love another human being the way you loved your first? Will you, as parents, be enough?

And yes, of course, there will be. Those of us who have already walked through that door know. We know about the heart’s ability to instantly expand. We know about the time and space continuum that seems to open up and allow you to manage super human levels of multi-tasking. We know that yes, you will be enough.

And we know that there isn’t a damn thing we can tell you that can reassure you until you’ve walked through that door yourself.

Congratulations MTM and SciFiDad, I’m looking forward to seeing the four of you on the other side!
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Tonight (Wednesday at 9pm EST) is another chance for you to listen to Clearly, You’re Retarded live!

In honor of SciFiDad’s new baby boy*, we’ll be discussing circumcision. To snip, or not to snip? Visit the Talkshoe show page to schedule a reminder, download past episodes, and listen live tonight in the chatroom.

*OK, not really. I just happen to know he’s keeping his skin. Although I can’t find the post to link to now for the freaking life of me.

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  1. Turnbaby says:

    Again so glad I have dogs;-)

    Interesting debate.

  2. avitable says:

    I second Turnbaby.

  3. Sybil Law says:

    Mmmm… foreskin…
    Just kidding! Gross.
    Anyway, congrats, SciFi Dad and Family!
    I only have 1 daughter, so not sure how much I’ll be able to contribute, but I will certainly be there!

  4. Dawn says:

    Even though my religion (Judaism) “insists” on snipping, it gives me the shivers.

    I also have a dog — but he’s gone through even worse! More shivers.

    More important than any penis issue, though… big congratulations to the new parents!

  5. Willie G says:

    Isn’t this just a strange thing that we do to our children? Ranks right up their with anal probes. Some parts of the body were just not meant to come in contact with a knife. And the worst part is the boy cannot object or voice his opinion. The parents totally make this decision for the “good” (wtf?) of the child. Thanks Mom. Thanks Dad. I’ll never know what life could have been with my foreskin!

  6. greg t says:

    I like it nice and clean. Could have used a bit more though…

  7. NYCWD says:

    Hmmmm… one of the guys from the ForceCast is expecting too… but I think it’s his first one. He’s bringing the baby home in a Yoda costume. Is SciFi Dad that hardcore?

    The show sounds interesting… hopefully I’ll get to listen live instead of screaming at my iPod on Thursday morning.

  8. I hope Daren goes to hockey at 9 so I can listen. I’ll probably call in too because OH MY GOD I feel very strongly about this topic.

    Case in point: http://karensugarpants.com/2006/12/05/leave-my-dinky-alone/

  9. Ms. Karen says:

    I flat out refused to let them circ the minions when they were born, a decision that really bothered several family members (mostly male ones). However, when my older son was 17, he decided he wanted it done, and I was fine with that. His penis, his decision.

  10. I have two boys and feel pretty strongly on my opinion in this so I will be listening (although late) with interest.

  11. B.E. Earl says:

    I don’t think I wanna listen tonight to a show about that. Not when Criminal Minds is on. :eyebrow:

  12. Hmmmm…… to snip or not to snip?
    That is the question huh……

    How about, If we could go into the future and ask the kid when he’s say 21 if he’d like his cash and prizes hacked on…do you think he’d say yes?

  13. Congrats Sci-Fi Dad and Multi-tasking Mom! Enjoy the roller-coaster ride to come!

  14. And the baby is here! With pictures and everything. And I bet they’re slightly damp where Sci Fi Dad had a little cry over his new baby son.

    :D

  15. Momma2731 says:

    Britt, what a lovely post!! I am staring down the barrel of Baby #2 right now and your words of encouragement were just what I needed!! Thank you!
    As for the snip-snip, I work in child care and have seen far too many 4 and 5 year old boys have to have it done because of infections. OUCH!!!! Those little guys remember it, a baby doesn’t. Still, we went to a doc that specializes in “pain free” snips. I swear, out little guy didn’t even flinch. I was the only one that cried!

  16. Jules says:

    I’m just here over coming the urge to choke my “un-cut” teenage son tonight.

  17. Kiki says:

    You know what they say two isn’t twice the work it’s a gabillion times the work. That’s an understatement.

  18. Fumanchudad says:

    All my boys got the snip, my youngest delayed until he was 1 1/2. They say taking the skin causes a decrease in sensitivity…I don’t think I could stand much more sensitivity. I’d pass out. Snip it I say, far cleaner and easier to deal with in the diaper stage.

    FMD

  19. Hugh7 says:

    Fumanchudad: “I don’t think I could stand much more sensitivity. I’d pass out.”
    The ERs of Europe, Scandinavia, South America, Asia, and the rest of the English-speaking world are not filled with intact men passing out from too much pleasure. In fact your complaint of having nearly too much sensitivity sounds odd to us. Is that what circumcision does? The natural sensitivity of a whole penis means more _control_.
    “Snip it I say, far cleaner and easier to deal with in the diaper stage.” I’m sure girls would be even more so (and of course I mean cut hygienically, with anaesthetic and so on, nothing like Africa) but for some reason that idea fills us with horror. And don’t say “snip” if you haven’t seen what is involved. http://newborns.stanford.edu/Gomco.html is from Stanford University – hardly a hotbed of anticirc sentiment.

    Momma2371: the main reason for “infections” is premature forcible retraction, in other words meddling. The only one who should retract it is its owner, when he’s good and ready. Very, very few babies (<1%)need circumcision where it’s not common (as above) and they know how to leave it alone.

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