Sometimes when you read someone’s blog, or chat with them via IM, or live next door to them for your entire life, you assume you know what they think and how they feel about everything. You know where they stand on one issue, you know which jokes they laugh at, you know what kind of stringless thong they wear… and you use that information to fill in the gaps on anything else that may pop up. We’re all profilers, I guess, by nature. And it’s not a bad thing – it’s just human nature.
That being said, I’ve been inspired to come clean.
* From a legal and social stand point, I am pro-choice. I vote “pro-choice”. But not because I am not firmly, morally, against abortion. Not because I, personally, feel that because one body is in another body, the bigger body gets all the say so – necessarily. But because I think it would be socially irresponsible at this point to throw a bunch of scared women and babies to the fucking wolves right now. Because our society simply cannot afford to bear the burden of a ban on abortion.
* I support same-sex marriage. And not because I don’t think it’s anyone’s business what goes on in the bedroom (although I don’t think it’s anyone’s business what goes on in the bedroom). Marriage, from a legal standpoint, is not about what goes on in the bedroom. I support same-sex marriage being legalized because I believe if anyone – hetero, homo, or otherwise – wants to stand up and claim to have all of the same rights and privileges as I do as a married person, than they damn well better be willing to suck it up and take on the same responsibilities. Extending legal marriage to anyone who is willing to make that commitment STRENGTHENS marriage, in my opinion.
* I am for organized religion. I love being Catholic. I think there is a reason that man seems to be hard wired to a) feel a connection to something bigger than themselves and b) be a part of a group. Religion is not a bad thing. Does it get fucked up? Absolutely. And so does marriage and parenthood and interior decorating. That’s life. That being said, I really and truly don’t care if you’re NOT into organized religion. I wandered down a twisted path to find what fits for me. I whole heartedly embrace your right to your own path and your own fit.
*I abhor bigotry of any kind. I laugh at racists jokes. I tried desperately to find another way to categorize those jokes – but it is what it is. But laughing at a stereotype does not mean I’m OK with applying those stereotypes to individual people. There are places in life for black and white. Judging a human being’s character and personality is not one of them.
*I believe that people will let you down. However, I refuse to live my life waiting for someone to fuck me over. People fuck up. I do it, you do it, we ALLLL do it. It’s not because we are evil, horrible people waiting for the next chance to take someone out. It’s because we’re Human. Granted, there are shitty people out there and once you find them you’d be best to keep them the hell away from yourself. But most people? Most people really, truly and deeply are just not that bad. I mean don’t get me wrong, most people bug the SHIT out of me and I don’t want to invite them over for margaritas… but I’m not watching over my shoulder waiting for them to pounce, either.
*I believe it takes a village. To raise a child, to strengthen a marriage, to build a house, to run a society… all of it. We are not put on this earth all by ourselves for a reason. And while I like to think that the world would be better off if my children – and your children, for that matter – grew up to be clones of me, I have a sneaking suspicion that may not be the most practical of plans. While I expect to be the biggest influence on my kids and the final say, and I get frustrated that my mother-in-law feeds my kids sugar and my mother lets them roll in the mud… I’m glad they will have someone else to teach them things that I don’t know.
*I believe in the Constitution. Fiercely. I believe in free speech and the right to bear arms and the freedom of the press and the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. I’m fairly certain some of those things aren’t actually in The Constitution – but you get my drift. I may not like that you are loud mouthed, ignorant, chauvinistic prick. But I will defend to the death you’re right to be one. I refuse to give up my civil liberties – or yours – in an effort to make myself feel safer. I will make damn sure you have your civil liberties, to ensure that I will always have mine.
*I am against the war. I am pretty much against war, period. But especially this one.
*I am very, very proud of my sister who is in the Air Force and my friend who is on his second (or is it third?) tour in Iraq. The level of commitment it takes to sign up for something, not knowing what exactly you’ll be asked to do or where exactly you’ll be asked to do it, on little more than principle alone… that astounds me.
*I am a Democrat. And not because I don’t know any better. Not because I like taxes. Not because I am a fan of Big Government. But because we are going to HAVE government and taxes and bull shit. As long as we are going to have it, I prefer to have it for providing for the poor, providing solid education, building roads, and catching the people who fall through the cracks of our “social outreach”.
*Animal are not people too. Technically, people are animals too. But we’re not the fucking SAME. I don’t think you should be cruel to an animal – I mean duh. Cruelty for cruelty’s sake is just wrong. And if you’re an animal lover? Great. But do not piss on my steak, throw paint on my fur, or bring your fucking puppy into the hardware store! No, I don’t want to pet him. Do I ask you to hold my children?
Hm. Well. This is getting quite long. Have any questions about where I stand on anything else? Just ask, I will obviously tell you.
I used to fancy myself to be a bundle of contradictions. But now, looking back over this list, I don’t think I’m really much of a contradiction at all. In fact, it seems what I AM… is my mother.