Happy Marriage

In August of 2009, my husband moved out and I started looking for a divorce attorney. Today, we are happier than we have ever been – happier than I could have ever imagined was possible. How does that happen? How does a marriage go from rock bottom to something resembling marital bliss?

A hell of a lot of work and a really good counselor.

But let’s back up.

• The first signs that we were in big trouble were way back in 2007.
• Bitchy Wife Rant
• Admitting I’m unhappy
• It’s in the beans
• These years
• Burnout
• Love Letter To My Estranged Husband
• Not traveling together
• Scared
• It seems the problem in my marriage is me

In the summer of 2009, the troubles we’d been ignoring or assuming were normal finally exploded in our faces in a very big way. While we haven’t discussed the exact details online, the bottom line is that our marriage was as bad as it could get. And it sucked for both of us.

• Apocalypse
• Don’t cry for me
• Jared moves out
• The Ache
• Everything But Fine
• The Worst Day
• One More Chance
• Was Blind But Now I See
• Today – Jared moves home

In October of 2009, we started marriage counseling. We went every week for about a year and also did individual counseling.

• I should have said.
• Living without trust – or control
• Marriage counseling 101: The Dialogue
• Marriage Mad Lib
• Appreciations
• The Guilt
• Beneath The Surface
• Nothing
• Breaking the Cycle
• My biggest Eureka moment

In the end, saving my marriage helped me find myself. I can’t go so far as to say that I’m glad for what we did to each other or all the pain we both endured, but I’m grateful for what we’ve gained as a result.

Britt and Jared – Thanksgiving 2010